Unacceptable behavior and dating

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Relationships can make us want to explain away or even deny uneasy feelings, but these red flags should never be ignored.

Everyone gets angry sometimes, it’s the frequency and severity of your partner’s reactions that should act as a guide for your concerns.

There's a lot of good in the guy I’m dating, but the bad is unacceptable. I keep waiting for the guy I’m seeing to make the changes I need. The truth is, there’s no one size fits all answer to these questions.

Chances are, at some point in your dating past or present one or more of the above questions has weighed heavily on your mind.

You work with men and occasionally you will need to communicate about work as well. Just because you personally return every text message in three minutes or less doesn’t mean the person you’re dating does.

Occasionally they will need to communicate about work. As long as it’s not a regular thing, give him a pass without a second thought and create an atmosphere of boundary-honoring and consent in your sex life. He forgot you had an important meeting at work and didn’t bother to ask you about it. He has a lot of things to remember, as do you, and he probably didn’t forget your annual review on purpose. He didn’t say it back when you told him you missed him. My boyfriend likes to say “likewise” when I say something sweet to him. And if he says nothing back at all, the fact that he’s blushing like crazy tells me all I need to know. He didn’t to respond to one of your texts or emails.

This can mean overdoing it with an exercise regimen or diet, it can mean missing important details about a new job; and it can most certainly relate to our relationships.The best way to guarantee that you don't waste time in the wrong relationship is to become clear about what you want BEFORE you get into a relationship.That starts with knowing your relationship requirements. It’s all a bit murky when you’re not familiar with a person’s normal modus operandi. That means that he wasn’t a piece of shit to her and it gives you a preview of what would happen if you two broke up. Praise him for being a decent human being and get over it. If he shows up for your dates, contacts you regularly and displays a genuine interest in your and your life, you can take that as a positive sign. He’s probably not hiding a deep, dark secret, he’s not embarrassed of you, he probably has a reason that you’re not privy to. If you know you can be that type of overthinky dater, with PTDD tendencies (ME! So, maybe one time they got drunk and had sex and realized that they were thoroughly repulsed by each other romantically. It was nasty and the thought of ever touching tongues or any body part with that person again sends you into a convulsive fit. Therefore, you need to use good judgment based on each encounter.

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