Toward the end of the evening, I commented that women frequently complain that their husbands don't talk to them. He gestured toward his wife and said, "She's the talker in our family." The room burst into laughter; the man looked puzzled and hurt. Sociologist Catherine Kohler Riessman reports in her new book "Divorce Talk" that most of the women she interviewed -- but only a few of the men -- gave lack of communication as the reason for their divorces.Given the current divorce rate of nearly 50 percent, that amounts to millions of cases in the United States every year -- a virtual epidemic of failed conversation.IWAS ADDRESSING a small gathering in a suburban Virginia living room -- a women's group that had invited men to join them.Throughout the evening, one man had been particularly talkative, frequently offering ideas and anecdotes, while his wife sat silently beside him on the couch. If she didn't keep the conversation going, we'd spend the whole evening in silence." This episode crystallizes the irony that although American men tend to talk more than women in public situations, they often talk less at home. The pattern was observed by political scientist Andrew Hacker in the late '70s.In that audio, Trump discusses a failed attempt to seduce a woman, whose full name is not given in the video. The tape was recorded several months after he married his third wife, Melania. It’s no excuse, but this happened eleven years ago — I was younger, less mature, and acted foolishly in playing along.I’m very sorry.” After the video appeared online Friday afternoon, Democratic nominee Hillary Clinton wrote on Twitter: “This is horrific.Being upfront about what you’re not comfortable with and what you are can help ensure everyone has a positive experience.You need to talk to your partner to find out how open you want to be when discussing your sexual past.
Instead, they focused on communication: "He doesn't listen to me," "He doesn't talk to me." I found, as Hacker observed years before, that most wives want their husbands to be, first and foremost, conversational partners, but few husbands share this expectation of their wives.  University administrators take it for granted that a certain amount of sex will be “casual,” that is, devoid of intimate emotion or connection. In fact, it’s the great contradiction at the heart of our college sex wars.Donald Trump bragged in vulgar terms about kissing, groping and trying to have sex with women during a 2005 conversation caught on a hot microphone, saying that “when you’re a star, they let you do it,” according to a video obtained by The Washington Post.The video captures Trump talking with Billy Bush, then of “Access Hollywood,” on a bus with the show’s name written across the side. Simply engaging in sex doesn’t signify that you have consented to it; you have to agree directly and explicitly to anything that you do.