Or perhaps it’s exactly the kind of positive, ambitious guy I’ve been looking for? But there’s a stumbling block for me, and I can’t seem to get past it: His username is another term for Dracula. Or you could choose something that indicates what your job is—Vet Guy or Writer Girl indicate that you’re comfortable with your profession. “I would stay away from any words that are negative in nature, like lonely and desperate.
What about my 8th-grade boyfriend—is he looking to reconnect? As in a centuries-old chap with a penchant for neck biting. Even if you are, find something positive or fun to use,” says Bev Bacon, dating expert and author of Have fun with your moniker, and if you find yourself in a bind, bounce the idea off friends (a friend of the gender you’re trying to attract is best! Ask them what they’d think if that username showed up in their inbox—and what the name suggests to them.
Do not assume that you can do this without any suggestion, which is the first big mistake you will make when joining a website.
You need to know the right way of choosing that commands attention.
Until I click on the profile, I’m free to daydream about the person on the other end of the wink. Consider having some fun wordplay with your name or initials—Grish references a friend of hers named Alia, who lives in California and chose the catchy CAliafornia as her handle.
Could it be a blue-eyed guy with a quirky sense of humor? There is nothing wrong with Mr Nosferatu’s profile—he seems nice, has a solid job, cute pictures, and no visible scars. We’d go to an Italian restaurant (with lots of garlic items on the menu), and I’d carry a pointed stick in my little black tote, in case he tried to get, er, fresh after dinner. Dating is enough of a challenge without trying to figure out if your dinner partner is a member of the Undead! A few days pass, and I got emails from several cute guys with normal, friendly usernames. In just 11 letters, Alia manages to convey that she’s fun, witty, and proud to be a West Coaster.
And if these two guys are to be believed, they’re serving up heartbreak and emotional baggage in spades. I don’t want to make it seem like guys are the only ones making these username mistakes; women are just as guilty. You’re trying to find someone with whom you can connect.
There are other considerations to take into account in choosing the right name.
The researchers said men are more drawn to names indicating physical attractiveness, such as "Blondie" or "Cutie," whereas women prefer to chase would-be dates that have names denoting intelligence, such as "Cultured." The British researchers outlined a few other considerations and suggestions to maximize dating success online: How should online daters employ the British team's findings?
It’s no secret that we all look at the pictures first on JDate.
As much as I’d love to say it’s not true, I’d be lying if I told you otherwise. It might be your age or the first line of your profile, but in reality, it’s probably your username.
An analysis about online dating published in the journal Evidence Based Medicine suggests that men are drawn to online profiles in which a user name signifies physical fitness, while women prefer user names indicating risk-taking. The joint data analysis, by researchers with Queen Mary University of London and the University of Texas, found that choosing internet dating handles that begin with a letter in the first half of the alphabet is as important as uploading a flattering profile pic or crafting the perfect introductory headline.