A man and woman face each other across a table at a downtown bistro, looking nervous and awkward. There is a stiff formality to the way they sit—no slouching. In reality, premature or exaggerated revelations are due more to boundary issues, unresolved pain, or self-centeredness than true intimacy. Maybe your first date questions will lead you to discover that this person is your soul mate—or maybe not.
All the observable and obvious clues: They are nicely groomed and wearing freshly pressed clothes—stylish, but not overdone. Should the relationship evolve, there will be plenty of time to get into weighty topics. When a person reveals too much too soon, it can give a false sense of intimacy.
See also: Online dating scams target hearts, bank accounts AARP's Fraud Watch Network is encouraging online dating services to take steps to better keep their customers safe.
In June 2015, the group will issue a call to action aimed at the dating industry, urging all companies to adopt more stringent verification and fraud-fighting technologies.
Here are six things to keep in mind to help you spot and avoid scammers on online dating sites.
Anyone can be the target and victim of these scams—men, women, young, old, gay, straight, white, black, Asian, Hispanic… But the FBI states that women who are “over 40, divorced, widowed, and/or disabled” are prime targets for scammers.
The two pick at their dinner salads, staring down at the leafy mound before them. Finally, one of them tries to grease the wheels of conversation. The process begins by providing lots of space for the full expression of information and asking follow-up questions to further draw out the one talking.
For now, it's largely up to dating service users to protect themselves: Don't assume you're safe just because you trust the company or brand.
I’m not saying these people are incapable of growth, healing, and change.
But these negative issues can only be repaired with significant effort on the part of those who suffer from them.
If you fall into this category, be especially wary of people that you meet through dating websites.
Online dating can be difficult for women The AARP also says that seniors are a common target of these scams.
In August, a British man was sent to jail after defrauding two women of over £300,000 (5,300) through online dating sites.