The absence of pressure to fulfill certain gender-based stereotypes fosters a liberal attitude toward sex, dating, and marriage.
When I first arrived in Denmark, I was completely shocked by the way the Danes adhere to traffic laws. It was the latest in long-running series called Father of Four. As the kids grow up, they just replace them with new actors. The oldest sister, who’s about 20, meets a handsome young man with a guitar. This means a lot if you’re a foreign woman dating a Danish man. They don’t want some clown opening the door for them, or helping them carry packages. My Danish male friends say that after offering to be chivalrous a couple of times and getting turned down in a nasty manner, they don’t want to do that any more. ”He’s really happy when I call him, but he never calls me”. I mean, I come from a culture where men whistle at beautiful women they don’t know walking down the street.What struck me watching the movie was that the male romantic lead was visibly shorter than the female lead. In Hollywood – or Bollywood – movies, the male actor is taller because he’s supposed to be in charge, the dominant figure. He is a not a Frenchman who will pursue you to the ends of the earth. When I first moved to Denmark, I thought I’d stopped hearing whistles because I’d aged out of the whistle target group.And it’s not embarrassing to tell your sexual partner to use protection – though we admit it can be awkward for everyone, also for the Danes.Also remember that though many Danes are sexually experienced, you have every right to enforce your own personal boundaries, and say yes and no to intimate activities depending on what you want.It does not mean that they are bad people; sex is simply a natural thing for young people to have experienced in Denmark.